Being upset and knowing my mother wouldn’t mind if I let off a bit of steam, I let the feelings roll. I was just amazed at how people can be on two totally different pages, and still like each other. But it sure makes for a difficult ride during the relationship. And many times, the argument can even end it.
I don’t know why I was so surprised at the frustration over not seeing eye to eye with a particular individual. It is a very simple premise. That is why wars are fought. You see things one way, I, with my different background and beliefs see things another way. You dig in. I entrench. Shots get fired. And before you know it, the battle rages.
People who want to eradicate war are ignoring a very human reality. One that will never be wiped away. I am not going to change the way you were brought up and how you believe. In turn, it is not very likely that you will change my mind either. What to do, what to do, what to do?
There is a saying I have taken to heart many times over the years. “When in a tug of war, let go of your end.” If you think about it, you will begin to see the wisdom in that statement. If both sides are huffing and puffing and pulling with all their might, and suddenly, one side just “let’s go” what happens? That’s right, the side left with the rope all falls down.
Now, am I saying to just give up, even when you believe deeply about something? No. Am I saying if you get tired of the fight, let go? No. What I am saying is that many times in our lives, some arguments and disagreements simply aren’t worth the fight. Period. Sometimes, one side just needs to let go, accept that the two sides shall never agree, and move on. It’s that easy.
If there is a struggle in your life that you are holding onto. If you deep down know that you are not going to change your way of thinking, and too, you know deep down, the other person is not going to change, then why keep fighting? Neither of you are going to successfully convince the other. Someone has got to let go. It might as well be you. Save your energy for the crises. The real things in life that need your attention and matter.
Just my thoughts,
S.
