I have girl friends that are married, happily married that are not size two and gorgeous. As a matter of fact, one friend of mine looks like a mid-west farm girl. Big and strong. No make-up. Can fix her own water heater, and more. No frills. As real as they come. I adore her. She is VERY happily married. (It’s a second marriage by the way.)

Another gal I know is a basket case. I don’t see how she gets through the day. Overweight. Extremely insecure. Great husband. And he is successful. Hmmmmm.

Now, let’s take a look at the beautiful women of today. The “it” girls. The successful uber women of our day. Think of the women in the news, in Hollywood, in your wealthy areas.

Ok, now, think. How many of them are currently married, or, are in a long-term relationship? Are you thinking?

Ok, now, how many of them are not married?

Now, how many of the married ones are truly happy?

Are you seeing what I am seeing?

No amount of starving yourself and counting calories will assure you happiness.  A designer closet will not secure a long-term marriage.  If you truly believe you are not married because of your weight or your clothes, then why on earth is most of Hollywood single?

Here’s what’s interesting. Women in the early 20th century, in a way, fought for freedom from men. The freedom to vote. Wear short skirts. Have careers and own property.  And now, we spend most of our time and money on trying to attract a man that will come to our rescue, love us, and take care of us forever and ever, amen.

Ironically, on the flip side, married women think we have it made.  They envy all of the time that we have. The freedom. Our schedule being our own, of course. (Not really, but we won’t tell them will we girls.)

 I do fully understand. While they are knee deep in dishes, evening bath time, and homework it must seem like I am lounging in my bubble bath with a chardonnay and classical music. Or, they think I am out in my high-heeled shoes having martinis with the single set. (Just like on Sex and the City). But that could not be farther from the truth.

I have a full-time job. I clean my own house, and I do my own laundry. Here’s to the good life.

And a great weekend!

S.